Is it saying no? Is it saying stop? Is it saying
I don’t like that? I won’t do that?
Is it as simple as
sticking up for me?
Maybe I need skills
Maybe I need practice
Maybe I just need
to do it.
Setting limits can be awkward
The consequences unknown
The possibilities for
rejection
loom
But it’s worth it.
It’s worth it to be heard
able to voice how I feel
even to myself
It’s worth it to know
where I begin
and another person ends
It’s worth it to allow
each of us to fully experience
our own lives as they unfold
It’s worth it to feel
the freedom
of being myself
letting go of the need for approval
letting go of the need for perfection
letting go of the need to fix things
And being willing to
just be me.
❤
If you can use some guidance and practice setting boundaries while still being nice, my newest small-group online workshop begins tomorrow! Click for details.
It’s important for me to do so
and it’s being true
to what I am really feeling
So I say no
not today
not now
I’m sorry, I can’t
But then the guilt.
It washes over me
floods my thoughts
churns in my belly
How can I say no?
They need me
need my help
need my service and maybe need God through me
so the thoughts keep spinning
that I’m just being selfish
and would it have really hurt me
to drop what I’m doing
to add more to my plate
and would it have really hurt me
to give one more afternoon
because people give to me
and so shouldn’t I give back
all that I have?
all that I am?
but then I remember
what I can be like
when I don’t take care of myself
the tailspin I can create
the emotional states
the physical decline
and then I remember
that when people give to me
give in healthy ways
it doesn’t require
of loss of myself
to them
it is a gift
and then I remember
that setting boundaries
establishing limits
makes me MORE able to help
more able to be present
more able to be me
in those times that
are appropriate
and that’s woman –
that’s who
they were asking for
in the first place
If you can use a little help saying NO without feeling guilt,
you may like to join my FREE online class, this Wednesday. (recording will be available) Click here for info and registration.
So, are you tired of always trying to have it all together? Being micro-managed by unrealistic expectations?
We fool ourselves into thinking perfectionism is one of those “weaknesses” we love to have. That we are just striving for excellence and being our best.
But actually, perfectionism causes
anxiety, depression, irritability and isolation.
I am tired of going it alone, being strong, having it “all together” when inside I’m often falling apart.
I hope you will stand with me, and practice a little Un-Perfectionism!
We start Friday! click here or on the image for more details.
Blessings!
PS – I want it to be a small group, creating the safety of getting to know each other and personalized support, so “seats” are limited to 21 women. And it’s only $99 for the entire 21 days – that’s the cost of a single coaching session.
PPS – the first 10 registrants also get a special bonus gift! Check it out 🙂
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