When I first start
setting boundaries
It’s awkward
I don’t always say
the right thing
the right way
using
the right words
the right inflections
So people react without saying
the right thing
the right way
using
the right words
the right inflections
Sometimes
that makes me want to stop
setting boundaries
But I can’t.
Because I need them
and even though you may not like it
you need me to have them
for our relationship to be real
We need to express our needs
We need to express our true selves
In order to really know each other
Not who we think we are
Not who we should be
Not just making it work
Not just keeping the peace
Because I want to be
the real me
flawed and awkward
Because deep down
I like me
flawed and awkward
and I’m hoping
you will like
the real me
too
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I hear you! I too am practising – and it IS awkward. I’ll keep going, though, if you say so… 🙂
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We are in it together! 🙂
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What Beautiful words,full of emotion. I can truly relate to those words. Thank-You
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Thank you for joining me on the journey ((hugs))
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Big hugs back at you 🙂 And you are most welcome
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It’s a journey well worth taking…the only one worth taking!
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🙂 Thank you, Eliza!
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LOVE that I saw this today … makes for a perfect affirmation on 11-12-13! Thanks, dear!
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Thank you, Bernadette! 🙂
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It’s true… but I always ask myself “did there reaction was due to my provocation ? If it wasn’t then I pray their hearts be softened. Friend ~ Love is not easily provoked! If you can live with your choices then, let the Lord take care of the rest~ Terrific writing ! Faithfully Debbie
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That’s the awkwardness of it, isn’t it? Sometimes we don’t say it quite right and then we’ve just got to clean that up and try again. Thank you Debbie! 🙂
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Beautiful. My advice is to always be true to yourself in every situation and relationship. My favourite line in your poem is
“Because I want to be
the real me
flawed and awkward”
Each and every one of us should always be ourselves. Love Jenna
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Thank you so much Jenna – for the advice, and for being here with me. ❤ Christine
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That is awesome. I love what is in the lines. I am having some struggles in having conversations with a friend. He sets so many boundaries which I need to adjust myself to avoid his reaction. I accept who he is but I am losing myself and my passion in having conversation in a deeper sense to understand each other as I can have no voice in the heart level which is me living from heart. How can he just always say. Let it be. He is just like that. How about me. Can you let it be, not react to me. I am just like that too. I want to be the real me too. Oh my goodness.
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🙂 Sounds like some wonderful processing Gigi – and a great conversation to be had with your friend! xoxo
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