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Worth It

Posted in Self worth, Workshops, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on July 5, 2015| 3 Comments »

setting boundaries

 

Setting boundaries –
What does it even mean?

Is it saying no? Is it saying stop? Is it saying
I don’t like that? I won’t do that?

Is it as simple as
sticking up for me?

Maybe I need skills
Maybe I need practice
Maybe I just need
to do it.

Setting limits can be awkward
The consequences unknown
The possibilities for
rejection
loom

But it’s worth it.

It’s worth it to be heard
able to voice how I feel
even to myself

It’s worth it to know
where I begin
and another person ends

It’s worth it to allow
each of us to fully experience
our own lives as they unfold

It’s worth it to feel
the freedom
of being myself

letting go of the need for approval
letting go of the need for perfection
letting go of the need to fix things

And being willing to
just be me.

❤

If you can use some guidance and practice setting boundaries while still being nice, my newest small-group online workshop begins tomorrow! Click for details.

still being nice

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Practicing Un-Perfectionism

Posted in Self worth, Workshops, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 29, 2015| 2 Comments »

Well, lovelies,
I have to tell you
I’ve been having so much fun
in the Know My Worth Workshop
this month, that I’m doing a new one for May!

Let me tell you a little about it… (video)

So, are you tired of always trying to have it all together?
Being micro-managed by unrealistic expectations?

We fool ourselves into thinking perfectionism is one of those “weaknesses” we love to have. That we are just striving for excellence and being our best.

But actually, perfectionism causes
anxiety, depression, irritability and isolation.

I am tired of going it alone, being strong, having it “all together”
when inside I’m often falling apart.

I hope you will stand with me, and practice a little Un-Perfectionism!

We start Friday!
click here or on the image for more details.

PUP workshop

Blessings!

PS – I want it to be a small group, creating the safety of getting to know each other and personalized support, so “seats” are limited to 21 women.  And it’s only $99 for the entire 21 days – that’s the cost of a single coaching session.

PPS – the first 10 registrants also get a special bonus gift!  Check it out 🙂

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Everyone, Everything, Everywhere

Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on February 28, 2015| 6 Comments »

Sometimes
I get so busy

making sure everyone
has what they need

making sure everything
gets done as it should

making sure everywhere
has been shopped or cleaned

that I forget to
STOP.

And I forget to
BE

making sure
I take care
of everyday me

It's OK to take care of me too

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All of It All

Posted in Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on December 24, 2014| 4 Comments »

All the shopping
food and gifts

All the wrapping
ribbons and bows

All the baking
flour and sugar

All the decorating
colors and lights

All the cleaning
fresh and fragrant

All of it
fun
until it isn’t.

All of it
because I want to
until it isn’t.

All of it
at once…

until I say
wait.

And I take a deep breath
and I remember why
and I make choices
to do only
what it suits me
to do

Because I just can’t
Because I just won’t

DO or BE
all of it all.

Merry Christmas Everyone!
Christine

My worth is not measured here

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Know My Worth Workshops

Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , on September 5, 2014| 2 Comments »

No more waitingWorkshop - are you ready to Know Your Worth?
No more second guessing
No more “making sure”

No more perfectionism
No more holding back
No more being torn

It’s time.

It’s time for us to come together
to talk about how we know our worth

That
It’s not what others tell us
It’s not the things we do
It’s not what we say
It’s not what we were taught

But
it’s inside
it’s pure
it’s God-given

And it’s ours.

We are enough just as we are!

Know My Worth
Online Small-Group Coaching

* 4-week workshop
* Private Facebook Group
* Facilitated by a Certified Professional Coach
* Limited number of participants
* Daily Coaching Questions
* Weekly Reflection Activities and Videos

All for the cost of a single coaching session:
$97 US

If you would like to join the next session of
Know My Worth workshops
please email me at the address given in the photo
or message me here at the blog.  I would love
to have you join us!

 

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Anticipating Criticism

Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on April 2, 2014| 14 Comments »

I sit waiting

cringing on the inside
knowing what’s coming
harsh “helpful” words
in the name of feedback

I sit waiting

determined to remember
this says more about her
than it does about me

determined to remember
this is one person’s opinion
and doesn’t define me

determined to remember
that I’m covered by grace
and don’t have to be perfect

I radiate light

Visualizing that light
swells me with strength

I sit a bit straighter
I lean forward and smile

For I am not defined
by this conversation
and I will not cower
anticipating criticism

someone's opinion

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I Lose Me

Posted in Photo quotes, Self worth, tagged , , , on January 19, 2012| 3 Comments »

When I try to be everything for everyone else, I lose me
and that’s who they wanted in the first place

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Holiday Panic

Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , on December 13, 2011| 2 Comments »

It’s Christmastime!

Gotta find the perfect tree

Gotta put up the perfect lights

Gotta buy the perfect gifts
at the perfect sale prices

Gotta set up the perfect decorations

Gotta get the perfect outfits

Gotta bake the perfect cookies

Gotta cook the perfect meal

Gotta make the most perfect of all memories

Gotta pause.

Christ was the perfect gift, given to us by God,
so that we don’t have to be perfect.
We are free
We don’t need to do anything
We are valuable, loved, cherished, and complete
not by what we find, get, set, make
but just in who we are

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So I’m not perfect

Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged , , , , , on November 26, 2011| Leave a Comment »

So I’m not perfect
Is that a surprise?
maybe only to myself.

In my mind
I know
that no one is perfect.
and yet
I expect myself to be?

I beat myself up
when I make a mistake
I agonize over what I 
should have
done differently.

I need to learn how to forgive myself
for not being perfect.

One of the hardest things to do
and yet
I know
it is a key
to a peaceful heart.

So I chose to forgive myself
And ask God to help me
release myself
from the need to be perfect
for today at least

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