I know sometimes I’m not easy.
I am a complicated woman
who knows what
a good relationship
can look like,
and that colors
my expectations.
I’m not wooed by
sweet-sounding words,
bold professions of love,
or grand romantic gestures…
I’m actually quite leery of them.
I am slow to jump into big decisions;
I like to follow my heart and my brain.
I’m often too serious, guarded, and pensive.
Heartbreak, loss and pain shape my view.
It sometimes takes work
to love me.
But I love
with my
whole heart,
I’m loyal,
I’m fierce,
and I’m worth it.
Posts Tagged ‘expectations’
Complicated Woman
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged expectations, fear, feelings, love, overcome, relationships, respect, romance, self worth, shape poem, wholehearted, wise mind, worth on November 13, 2018| Leave a Comment »
Light bulbs
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged expectations, lies, loved, metaphor, no matter what, overcome, poetry, respect, self awareness, unexpected metaphor, what I allow will continue, worthy on January 27, 2018| 6 Comments »
5 light bulbs in my kitchen
going out
one by one
until only one remained
Over time
the view dimmed
I didn’t even realize
how my awareness
was being changed
Stains went unnoticed
Spills got ignored
Crumbs gathered in corners
with shards of a broken glass
Filth crept in.
But today –
today I changed
the dead light bulbs
and it’s helping me see
everything
more clearly.
Bright white light
floods into hidden corners
shadows recede
like defeated trolls
I can see
what I have let happen
slowly bit by bit
in the creeping darkness
I can see…
The stains
of the lie of self hated
The spills
of unfulfilled hopes
The shards
of self confidence broken
The crumbs
of acceptance I’ve scraped for
I see it now.
in the light.
And I remember
I don’t have to live like this.
I begin to clean.
Celebrate YOUR Independence
Posted in Self worth, tagged control, doubt, emotion, expectations, fear, freedom, grace, independence, letting go, worry on July 2, 2016| Leave a Comment »
Is it time to celebrate your own personal freedom?
Freedom from comparison
Freedom from judgment
Freedom from self-doubt
Freedom from self-criticism
Freedom from worry
Freedom from pressure
Freedom from shame
Freedom from fear
Freedom from anger
Freedom from resentment
Freedom from indignation
Freedom from expectation
Freedom from your past
Freedom from your pain
I wish you freedom, my friends.
Freedom to know your worth, to tap into wisdom,
and to experience the joy and peace that come with letting go.
Not Just for Lovers
Posted in Self worth, tagged comparison is the thief of joy, expectations, feelings, God, lonely, love, no Valentine, pressure, real love, single, true love, Valentine's Day, what is love on February 14, 2016| 4 Comments »
Valentine’s Day
doesn’t have to be
just for lovers
It doesn’t have to be
about being part of a couple
It doesn’t have to be
a symbol of romance
It doesn’t have to be
a “Singles Awareness Day”
It doesn’t have to be
a day of comparison
a day of proving one’s love
a day of relationship status
It doesn’t have to be
a day of wistfulness
a day of longing
a day of regrets
Valentine’s Day
can be anything you want it to be
and that’s all that matters
about it
It can be a day of gratitude
thankful for loved ones in our lives
It can be a day of self-care
pampering and peace
It can be a day of laughter
friendship and joy
It can be a day of
knowing and remembering
that you are loved
by your Creator
with a love beyond
any love you can imagine
The Strong One
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged a beautiful mess, control, expectations, internal conflict, not perfect, pressure, scared, strong, vulnerability, vulnerable, weak on January 12, 2016| 5 Comments »
I don’t like being messy.
Emotional
Hurting
Unsure
Unaware
But no one does. No one likes it.
And yet WE ALL ARE at times.
We all HAVE TO BE at times.
And it’s ok.
Because being messy
is being ME
it’s being real
not an artificial robot
always on top of things
ahead of the curve
having it all together
the strong one
filled with cliches
I must remember
being strong
can be messy
sometimes too
I can be both
brave and scared
sad and hopeful
strong and messy
And the reality
is that
in order to
be strong
I have to be
allow myself to be messy
even when I don’t like it.
Learning about Love
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged codependency, Ethiopia, expectations, get, give, God, God's love, love, love me back, loving, peace, prayer, relationships on August 11, 2015| 2 Comments »
Love.
Abstract yet concrete.
Emotion yet thought.
Noun yet verb.
The more we give,
the more we get…
right?
Well, no.
It doesn’t always work that way.
Sometimes we give and give and give
and we feel an empty space
in return
But is that real love?
Because sometimes
the love we are giving
isn’t exactly the
pure and selfless love
we believe it to be
When we give love
with expectations of reciprocity
When we give love
with a need for fulfillment
from others
We aren’t giving pure, true love.
Pure true love
comes from our Creator.
Pure true love
has an endless supply.
Pure true love
fills us up as we give it away
And pure true love
doesn’t need for us to do anything at all.
Just to be.
Just to give.
Through me – not because of me – not for me.
And I want to live
in that kind of love
each and every day.
❤
I’m excited to share that I’m going to be learning more about this kind of love as I leave for Ethiopia this week to work with an organization called Bring Love In. They bring widows and orphans together to create “forever families” as well as help keep other families intact.
I’m going as a Coach, but I’m mostly ready to spend my time listening, learning and loving. Thank you for sending your prayers and good thoughts with me, as I know they will be absorbed by me, and in turn felt by all I meet.
❤
Living in Grace
Posted in Self worth, Spiritual Awakening, tagged choices, control, expectations, feelings, God, grace, gratitude, healing, letting go, overcome, perfect, pressure, relationships on July 27, 2015| Leave a Comment »
What does it mean
to live in grace?
Does it mean…
that I no longer do anything wrong
or anything hurtful
that I sit in complete peace
never angry or hurt
that I am always kind
to myself and others
that I am free from feelings of
competition
overwhelm
unworthiness
anger
frustration
ingratitude
pain?
Well, no.
But it does mean
that my chains
to those feelings
can be broken
with a choice.
I can choose
to forgive
to be kind
to be peaceful
to be loving
to be joyful
to be patient
to be grateful
with others
AND MYSELF
because once we accept grace
for ourselves
we have an unlimited
amount to give
to others
And we will find ourselves
more often kind
more often peaceful
more often free
We just start by
choosing it.
Some Days
Posted in Healing, Self worth, Spiritual Awakening, tagged being OK, brave, expectations, God, letting go, mental health, needing control, poetry, pressure, sitting still, worry on July 16, 2015| 2 Comments »
Some days just don’t go right
My ideas don’t work out
Plans crumble
I don’t feel brave
Some days just don’t feel right
My body doesn’t behave
Moods spiral
I don’t feel healthy
Some days just don’t sit right
My thoughts don’t make sense
Fears spin
I don’t feel stable
And then I remember
there is no one right answer
there is no one right plan
And then I remember
my plans aren’t always the finest
my body tells me I need to rest
my thoughts
are only thoughts
And that even when life doesn’t go
according to my plans
I’m still learning
I’m still loving
I’m still loved
All of my days are known
by my omnipotent Creator
who sits with me
right with me
as I crumble, spiral and spin
who tells me it’s OK
to let go
of the worry and control
And I can feel brave
And I can feel healthy
And I can feel stable
just by sitting still
some days.
Worth It
Posted in Self worth, Workshops, tagged acceptance, anxiety, boundaries, codependency, expectations, grace, letting go, perfectionism, pressure, relationships, respect, worry on July 5, 2015| 3 Comments »
Setting boundaries –
What does it even mean?
Is it saying no? Is it saying stop? Is it saying
I don’t like that? I won’t do that?
Is it as simple as
sticking up for me?
Maybe I need skills
Maybe I need practice
Maybe I just need
to do it.
Setting limits can be awkward
The consequences unknown
The possibilities for
rejection
loom
But it’s worth it.
It’s worth it to be heard
able to voice how I feel
even to myself
It’s worth it to know
where I begin
and another person ends
It’s worth it to allow
each of us to fully experience
our own lives as they unfold
It’s worth it to feel
the freedom
of being myself
letting go of the need for approval
letting go of the need for perfection
letting go of the need to fix things
And being willing to
just be me.
❤
If you can use some guidance and practice setting boundaries while still being nice, my newest small-group online workshop begins tomorrow! Click for details.
Saying No
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged being accepted, confidence, expectations, fear, grace, guilt, overcome, poetry, pressure, relationships, saying no, self esteem, worry on June 22, 2015| 3 Comments »
Sometimes
I have to say no.
It’s important for me to do so
and it’s being true
to what I am really feeling
So I say no
not today
not now
I’m sorry, I can’t
But then the guilt.
It washes over me
floods my thoughts
churns in my belly
How can I say no?
They need me
need my help
need my service
and maybe need God through me
so the thoughts keep spinning
that I’m just being selfish
and would it have really hurt me
to drop what I’m doing
to add more to my plate
and would it have really hurt me
to give one more afternoon
because people give to me
and so shouldn’t I give back
all that I have?
all that I am?
but then I remember
what I can be like
when I don’t take care of myself
the tailspin I can create
the emotional states
the physical decline
and then I remember
that when people give to me
give in healthy ways
it doesn’t require
of loss of myself
to them
it is a gift
and then I remember
that setting boundaries
establishing limits
makes me MORE able to help
more able to be present
more able to be me
in those times that
are appropriate
and that’s woman –
that’s who
they were asking for
in the first place
Originally published 11.23.2012
If you can use a little help saying NO without feeling guilt,
you may like to join my FREE online class, this Wednesday.
(recording will be available)
Click here for info and registration.
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Christine Morgan
@WorthandWisdom
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