Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged anxiety, comparison, expectations, faith, fear, feelings, I am enough, letting go, lonely, note to self, pressure, self worth, worthy on April 15, 2015| 4 Comments »
A reminder today, for any day…
I am worthy
just as I am
I will not look to others
to define myself
I will not look to others
for acceptance and approval
I will not look to others
to justify or rationalize
any of my own
internal negativity
I am doing the best I can
with all that I have
in this moment
in this day
in this time
in this space
and that’s enough
because I’m enough
I am lovable
I am precious
I am beautiful
I am worthy.
Posted in Healing, Photo quotes, Self worth, tagged anxiety, comparison, control, expectations, forgiveness, letting go, pressure, relationships, self esteem, self worth on August 18, 2014| 2 Comments »
When something
or someone
here on Earth
hurts me
oh so badly
their words or deeds
penetrate my soul
the betrayal of spirit
the helplessness and futility
wounds of the heart
that seem to bleed and ooze
I need to take a moment
to stop and think
instead of feel
because when someone is able to hurt me to the core
it could actually be a sign
of my own unhealthy attachment
of my own expectations
that THIS PERSON will fulfill my needs
that A PERSON could fulfilll my needs
When we are all
just people
trying to survive
trying to figure it out for ourselves
And when someone hurts me
betrays me
mocks me
forgets me
ignores me
It’s not about me
It’s about them
finding their own way
figuring out their own mess
living their own truth
dealing with their own demons
I need to let it go
because their actions
their behaviors
are not a reflection of me
or of my worth
and I’m the only one
who can choose
to stop internalizing
to stop owning their mess
to stop
hurting so badly
Posted in Healing, Poetry, Self worth, tagged accountability, bad, being, BFF, bread winner, child, coach, comparison, considerate, daughter, disappointment, disobedient, doubt, encourage, expectations, failure, father, friend, friendship, good, guide, hope, husband, instructor, job, job title, listen, love, loving, mentor, mother, not perfect, obedient, parent, partner, perfect, poetry, pressure, provider, relationships, role model, roles, self esteem, self worth, son, spouse, teacher, validation, value, wife, work, worth on January 6, 2013| 6 Comments »
Being a good person
loving and caring
Being a good teacher
guiding and imparting
Being a good partner
considerate and helpful
Being a good provider
feeding and sheltering
Being a good coach
available and accountable
Being a good child
obedient and achieving
Being a good parent
shaping and modeling
Being a good friend
listening and encouraging
All good things
Yes, indeed
Yet
not one of my roles
not one of the things I do
no matter how “good”
I am at it
no matter how “bad”
I am at it
not one of these things
determines my worth
I have worth.
I have value.
No matter what.
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged assertiveness, comparison, expectations, faith, pressure, self worth on October 19, 2012| 7 Comments »
Only I can know my own experience.
Only I can know my own direction.
My path is probably different from yours –
it is mine after all.
Walk with me, add comfort and company,
but please, never tell me I’m doing it wrong.
I may not always be “right”
I may sometimes get a little lost
but that’s all
part of my journey
and none of it
is ever wrong
It’s my path
and only I
can say where it goes.
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged comparison, different, feelings, love, opinions, poetry, self esteem, self worth on March 4, 2012| 1 Comment »
I am told
or sometimes tell myself
that
how I see things
is different from
how anyone else sees things
so it must not be right
But that’s a lie.
A lie told in my head
or to my face
that says “I’m different”
I’m just being “dramatic”
I’m just being “out there”
I’m just being “silly”
and so my thoughts and feelings
are discounted
I am dismissed by those
around me
or by me
but my feelings are important
my experiences have brought me
to them
I can have insight
I can have wisdom
I do have knowledge
based on those experiences
based on how I see things
and I don’t think I’m that different after all.
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged behavior, comparison, doubt, expectations, feelings, God, God's love, lies, poetry, pressure, self worth, your opinion on January 4, 2012| 7 Comments »
You can’t make me
say any certain words
feel any certain feelings
think any certain thoughts
look any certain style
act any certain way
be any certain woman
You can
criticize
cajole
critique
advise
intimidate
mock
“help”
but still
You can’t
make me
anything.
I choose
my actions
reactions
I choose
to know
who I am
separate from
who you think
I am
instead
connected to
who God thinks
I am
Posted in Self worth, tagged comparison, doubt, God, joy, lies, self worth on November 5, 2011| 1 Comment »
Every time I get excited about something creative I am doing,
When I get energized and encouraged,
A short time later, I see how someone else is doing the same thing.
Only, Sara is doing it better
Gina is doing it more often
Marie has been doing it longer
An evil little voice inside says…
They must be more in line with God‘s path.
That’s a lie.
God has an individualized plan for each and every one of us. He doesn’t look at us standing next to Sara, Gina, or Marie and say, “hmmm – if only you were as good as Gina…”
God has a desire for a special and personal relationship with ME.
He cares about ME. He wants to know ME.
Comparison is the thief of Joy.
I will remember this today and KEEP my Joy.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
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