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Hello dear friends,

You don’t see me much these days as I’m back in school, and creative time is often taken up by discussion forums and reflection papers. I’m learning more skills to add to coaching; I’m working to become a therapist.

I recently wrote this simple post for class, and today I felt led to share my heart with you here.

Reflections on Worthiness

In 2011, based on my mother’s steps in her own life, I had an epiphany. My mom had decided to divorce, in spite of her firm beliefs about God’s law and wrongness of divorce.  When she made that decision, I felt a surge of freedom that comes with stepping into true grace.  The Holy Spirit whispered an insight to me that became the foundation of this blog and Facebook community: Nothing I do, nothing I’ve done, and nothing that has been done to me impacts my worth.Nothing I do mantra

I knew, without a doubt, that God still loved my mother even though she was divorcing.  I knew that even though this event would create sorrow and difficulty, God would be there.  And in that experience, my mom may be able to hear him even more clearly than she ever had before in her life.  I knew that God would use this time to bring her close, not to judge or condemn her, but to truly show her what His love and grace could look like, and how comforting it could be.

Through this understanding about my mom, I realized that throughout my life, I’d been trying to prove myself worthy – worthy of relationships, worthy of successes, worthy of happiness, worthy of God’s love. Through my own efforts, my own attempts at being “good” I would somehow find peace and love. But that’s actually opposite to how the gift of grace works… the more we strive, the further away we get from just accepting the gift, from just accepting our inherent worth.

Even when we do things that seem “wrong,” God can use those errors to bring us closer to him.  When bad things happen to us in life, God can use those events to bring us closer to him.  Trauma can create depth.  Sinfulness can create true repentance.  Mistakes create understanding.   All of these “bad” or “wrong” things that we do in our lives are tools that God uses to help us understand his love, his grace, and his view of us through Christ, as worthy, beautiful, and beloved – just as we are, just as he created us, and just as he has always known we would be. We cannot become any more or any less worthy than we already are.

 


Thank you for being here with me on this journey of worth.  I will continue to post here from time to time as the Spirit leads. To connect a bit more often (2x mo), I hope you join my Worth & Wisdom newsletter

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Oh Creator,
Give me the desire and the ability

to forgive myself

for times of being unaware
and not seeing things as clearly as I do now

for times of seeing acceptance
in people instead of you

for times of being naive
getting caught in someone’s snares

for times my words or actions
didn’t match who I want myself to be

for times of being human
needing space to learn and heal

for times of needing help
letting go of past hurts and old patterns

Give me the ability, desire, and the courage
to be compassionate with myself
to take steps forward
to believe I am worthy
just as I am.

04.23b self forgiveness prayer

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Hello Know My Worth lovelies!

I’m taking a little break from poetry today to let you know
I’m planning another Know My Worth workshop, set to begin on April 1st.

workshop

28 days with weekly themes, daily coaching exercises and activities, and a small group setting to create a close-knit and safe place to share and learn together.

Weekly topics include: Examining our Worth foundation, Overcoming Shame, Finding the Forgiveness, and Letting go of Control.

If you are interested, please visit my Worth And Wisdom website for more details and registration!

Wishing each of you to know how worthy,
how beautiful, how treasured and precious you are –
no matter what!

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Sideways glances
through narrowed eyes

Angry thoughts
of fairness
and pride

Resentful bile
swelling in the gut

Words choking my throat
I would never want to say
and feel ashamed to be thinking

Jealousy. The Green Eyed Monster
Envy.
Ugly.
Normal.

But I can make a choice
and jealousy
or envy
will not rule
my life
my thoughts
my body

I will conquer
the Green-Eyed Monster
and wish everyone well
and be happy for other’s success

without making it about me.

For I will change my focus
and see the light
in me
see the beauty
in me
see the uniqueness
in me

And travel on my own path
Noticing my own blessings
Living my own story.

 

Patricia and Christine will lead you through 5 solutions to overcome jealousy! If you would like to learn skills for Kicking that Green-Eyed Monster to the Curb, join me and Patricia Love, Life’s Cheerleader, for a FREE webinar Tuesday evening filled with 5 solutions and exercises to overcome jealousy and live a peaceful life.

 

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I ask a question
and you just ignore me
moving into other topics
as if I said nothing

I share an idea
and you just ignore me
I still have worth, outside of you.asking others for feedback
as if I said nothing

I strain
I strive
Aching for you to notice me
Yearning for you to appreciate me

I want you to be proud of me
I want to feel the glow
of “doing good”

But that just isn’t happening.
And it’s not going to happen.

So I need to remember
reality check time

my worth is not determined
by your approval.

My worth is not determined
by how much you like me
by how smart you think I am
by how much I add to the conversation

It may feel a little extreme, but I realize…
You don’t have to like me.
You don’t have to think I’m smart.
You don’t have to want to hear me.

You don’t have to even see me.

I still have worth
outside of you.

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Bombarded daily
to define myself
by some worldly standardDon't let the world tell you that you need to do or be anything - you have worth just as you are.
of success
of beauty
of worth

Is my job good enough?
Am I in fashion?
Do I make enough money?
Does my hair look right?

Is my house acceptable?
How about my body?
Do I have the right friends?
Do I hang out in the best places?

Do I make everyone happy?
Does everyone like me?
Am I a good girl?

If I align my life
with what the world says
these standards should be

will I feel satisfied?
will I feel worthy?

Nope.

Because none of it
none of the stuff
none of the opinions
none of the ways in which the world wants to define me

none of it
makes me who I am
or adds any value
to my soul

For I am fearfully
and wonderfully made
Loved
and cherished
just as I am

Without all the stuff
Without being in style
Without pleasing anyone

For nothing I do,
nothing I have done,
and nothing that has been done to me
defines my worth

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I need to let go
of the need
for control

When I think I have everything handled
When I think I’ve got it all figured out
When I think I know the answers

I don’t.

I need to let go
of the need
for certainty

When I think I found the right path
When I think I am ready to charge ahead
When I think I see a perfect vision and purpose

I don’t.

Because certainty is an illusion
And looking for it
leads me into
hesitation
fear
paralysis

Yet if I let God
do Her thing

If I let go of the need
for control
for certainty

Then all that I need

the desire
the power
the energy
the faith

All will be given to me
Just when I need it
Just how I need it
completely and beautifully
out of my control


philippians 2.13

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