Sometimes
I get so busy
making sure everyone
has what they need
making sure everything
gets done as it should
making sure everywhere
has been shopped or cleaned
that I forget to
STOP.
And I forget to
BE
making sure
I take care
of everyday me
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged awareness, codependency, expectations, just be, letting go, perfectionism, pressure, relationships, relax, superwoman, take care of yourself, worry on February 28, 2015| 6 Comments »
Sometimes
I get so busy
making sure everyone
has what they need
making sure everything
gets done as it should
making sure everywhere
has been shopped or cleaned
that I forget to
STOP.
And I forget to
BE
making sure
I take care
of everyday me
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged codependency, control, expectations, God, i am complete, looking for love, love, not perfect, perfect, pressure, relationships, romance on February 13, 2015| 11 Comments »
Thank you, Amazing Creator
for loving me
in a way
that no human could do
For showing me
that I am worthy
of that love
That perfect love.
Yet any and every time
I try to find that perfect love
here on Earth
here in another person
I will be disappointed.
But it’s a reality that
we just can’t love
the way you can
we are flawed
sometimes selfish
often clueless
So I will
stop looking for
perfect love
in people
I will be satisfied
with finding it
only in you
And I will let people
be imperfect in their love
just like me.
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged don't fit in, expectations, God, good, grace, healthy, perfect, popular, pressure, successful, thin, through God's eyes, wanna be on January 24, 2015| 2 Comments »
I don’t have to be
anything other than me
I don’t have to earn
anyone’s approval
I don’t have to fit
anyone’s expectations
I don’t have to receive
anyone’s validation or praise
I don’t have to mold myself
into what society
says I should be
I don’t have to get permission
to like what I like
to say what I think
to be happy
with who I am
right now
this very
minute
For I don’t want to waste my life
having never known
who I am
what I’m meant to do
or how I’m meant to live
And so I choose
to see myself gently
to see myself lovingly
through the lens
of the Creator
who made me
exactly how I am
who gave me
every experience in my life
to learn and grow through
who gave me
every talent and gift
to share pure light
with the world
who gave me
every flaw and shadow
to help me to remember
To be kind to myself
To be compassionate
To be filled with grace
And to learn
to love little ol’
lovable me.
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged blame, codependency, control, expectations, grace, letting go, not perfect, overwhelmed, people pleasing, pressure, relax, responsibility on January 10, 2015| 4 Comments »
Too many things to read
Too many words to absorb
Too many things to write
Too many words to express
Too many things to do
Too many hopes to fulfill
Too many things to say
Too many people to help
Too many things to achieve
Too many resolutions to realize
Too many expectations.
Who puts all this on me?
How did I get to this place?
Who is responsible?
How can it be fixed?
Who must take action?
Oh, Me.
All me.
So in one moment
with one choice
I can hit “Delete”
I can say “No”
I can throw them away
and change all the expectations.
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged betrayal, enlightenment, expectations, grace, hurt, I am enough, letting go, pain, poetry, pressure, respect, uncertainty on November 21, 2014| 6 Comments »
how long will it take
to wipe it from my mind
pretend all is well
and just move on
should i be mad
sad or frustrated?
should i be kind
forgive and forget?
nothing you do
is even about me
even if it impacts me
it’s not about me
and so i must let go
i must move on
but i can’t pretend
and i can’t forget
I don’t want to
because that feels phony
and makes me a little sick inside
how do i move forward
without being fake
how do i move forward
without calling it out
without a scream or a shout
without even a whisper
of how i feel
how do i move forward
without making it about me…
even for a minute?
because if i just let it go
if i don’t say a thing
about how it makes ME feel
would it, could it
just might it happen again?
how do i let go
without being a mess
how do i let go
without spiraling in shame
how do i let go
and still believe in me?
Posted in Healing, Self worth, Workshops, tagged boundaries, dynamics, dysfunctional, expectations, family, grace, healing, pressure, relationships, remember who you are, self worth, worthy on November 15, 2014| 2 Comments »
Ding Dong.
I’m here.
I’m at the house.
I’m ready to go in.
Or am I?
For as soon as I do
will I remember
who I am?
Will I be labeled
with my past
with my mistakes
with my dark times?
Will I be labeled
with old nicknames
with old jokes
with old embarrassing stories?
Failed expectations
of who I am “supposed to” be
Will I fall into
the role of child
of black sheep
of petulant teen?
Will I fall into
old habits
old patterns
old thinking?
Will I remember
all I have become
all I have learned
all that has changed
All that I am?
I must.
I can.
I will.
I will set boundaries.
I will stand up for myself kindly and openly.
I will take a deep breath whenever I need to.
I will remember my worth.
Ding Dong.
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Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged i am complete, letting go, love, notice me, poetry, praise, pressure, relationships, respect, self esteem, worry, worth on September 30, 2014| 2 Comments »
I ask a question
and you just ignore me
moving into other topics
as if I said nothing
I share an idea
and you just ignore me
asking others for feedback
as if I said nothing
I strain
I strive
Aching for you to notice me
Yearning for you to appreciate me
I want you to be proud of me
I want to feel the glow
of “doing good”
But that just isn’t happening.
And it’s not going to happen.
So I need to remember
reality check time
my worth is not determined
by your approval.
My worth is not determined
by how much you like me
by how smart you think I am
by how much I add to the conversation
It may feel a little extreme, but I realize…
You don’t have to like me.
You don’t have to think I’m smart.
You don’t have to want to hear me.
You don’t have to even see me.
I still have worth
outside of you.
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged beauty, culture, expectations, false standards of beauty, lies girls are told, pressure, society, to be a woman on September 14, 2014| Leave a Comment »
Who told you
that we need long hair
lashes or nails
rosy pink cheeks
and hidden pores
to be a woman?
As a girl
I rushed to grow up
to be a woman
what I thought it was to be
sneaking eyeliner to school
cutting myself with mom’s razor
plucking, curling, crimping
scouring for the perfect shade
to be pretty
Who told me
that I needed color palates
pinks and purples
lotions and potions
creamy and pungent
to be a woman?
Who told me
that I had to shave?