Afraid of Anger

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Afraid of Anger

March 22, 2013 by Christine of Worth&Wisdom

You are angry with me
and my reaction
is fear
bewildered
loss

I don’t know what to do
I don’t know how to act
I don’t know how to be
and I feel
that it’s my fault
that it’s now my role
to soothe your anger
to fix the situation
to change myself
to hide in shame

I didn’t meet your expectations
I didn’t do things as you would have done
I didn’t know the right way to answer
I didn’t prevent this very moment

But then I remember
I am a grown woman
who has thoughts
and feelings
that are just as valid
as anyone else

And I remember
it’s not actually
my job
to fix your anger

your anger
is your feeling
and just because
you have a feeling
I am not required
to do anything

Trying to force me
to change – to do or be
what you want me to do or be
is bullying

Your anger belongs to you
and you have every right to feel it
You can believe it’s righteous
You can believe it’s justified
You can believe it requires action

And I can disagree.

If I change
I will change for me
If you change
You will change for you

and if we continue to disagree
and you continue to be angry with me
then our paths will change

Because I will no longer be
afraid of anger

afraid of anger

Posted in Healing, Self worth | Tagged anger, anxiety, bullying, burdens, carrying others, depression, doubt, empowered, expectations, fear, fixing, guilt, health, hiding, know my worth, letting go, love, mental health, not perfect, poetry, pressure, relationships, responsible, self awareness, self esteem, self worth, shame, worry | 19 Comments

19 Responses

on March 22, 2013 at 7:37 am | Reply Lori Ann Arnold

I actually FEEL the power in this writing. THANK YOU!!!!!! I needed this today and I do know my worth!

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- on March 22, 2013 at 8:12 am | Reply know my worth
  
  Lori Ann, I am THRILLED to hear this! Way to go! Have a blessed and powerful day 🙂
  
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on March 22, 2013 at 8:01 am | Reply Hippie Chic Chick (@HippieChicChick)

Sharing this amazing and well said post! xo

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- on March 22, 2013 at 8:07 am | Reply know my worth
  
  thank you!
  
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on March 22, 2013 at 8:12 am | Reply BecauseOfGrace

“And I remember
it’s not actually
my job
to fix your anger”

true…so true!!! thank you!

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- on March 22, 2013 at 8:51 am | Reply know my worth
  
  My favorite part, to repeat over and over! 🙂
  
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on March 22, 2013 at 8:32 am | Reply Lori chavez

I loved the poem…I could’ve used this many years ago when I was married to a very angry man….I didn’t care much for the promo right below that for Gears of War which looks like a very violent game..did they sneak that in? I am very much against violent video games and reading the anger posting and then watching the video was a little bit of a shock..

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- on March 22, 2013 at 8:51 am | Reply know my worth
  
  Lori – I’m sorry that happened. Yes, any videos on my site are there from WordPress, and they show them randomly, and I don’t even know they do it. That’s the cost of having a free site. What horrible timing. I’m glad you did visit, and I hope that ad doesn’t keep you from getting a message.
  
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on March 22, 2013 at 11:41 am | Reply OneHotMess

Oh, I needed this today, Christine! Thank you and I love you! Xoxo

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- on March 23, 2013 at 8:20 am | Reply know my worth
  
  Thanks darling Annie! xoxo
  
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on March 22, 2013 at 12:01 pm | Reply Angela

This is so powerful…I plan on sharing it on my face book page..thank you…WOW..talk about empowerment…

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- on March 23, 2013 at 8:19 am | Reply know my worth
  
  Thank you, Angela! I’m glad it spoke to you.
  
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on March 22, 2013 at 6:29 pm | Reply melodylowes

So many of us learn early that anger is to be placated or avoided or shoved under a rug at any cost. The cost of running is too high – I am learning what you already know, that I need not assume another’s anger is mine. Refreshingly honest depiction here. Ironically I just was thinking about anger and wrote about it on my other blog – so this is a timely piece in my journey

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- on March 23, 2013 at 8:25 am | Reply know my worth
  
  Isn’t it interesting that we can be thinking about similar concepts at the same time? I like to think that’s a movement in the Spirit, and a leading for healing that can be global if we let it. 🙂
  
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  - on March 23, 2013 at 8:29 am | Reply melodylowes
    
    Global healing – I’m in! 🙂 What a delicious thought…
    
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on March 23, 2013 at 9:21 pm | Reply I HAVE A VOICE

I couldn’t help but cry.

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- on March 24, 2013 at 8:37 am | Reply know my worth
  
  I do hope in a cleansing way, and that you know your truth.
  
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on April 10, 2013 at 2:10 pm | Reply Ruud Kraak

Very clear,
thank you for sharing!

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- on April 11, 2013 at 6:58 am | Reply know my worth
  
  Thank you for reading and commenting!
  
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