Sometimes
I get so busy
making sure everyone
has what they need
making sure everything
gets done as it should
making sure everywhere
has been shopped or cleaned
that I forget to
STOP.
And I forget to
BE
making sure
I take care
of everyday me
Posts Tagged ‘relationships’
Everyone, Everything, Everywhere
Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged awareness, codependency, expectations, just be, letting go, perfectionism, pressure, relationships, relax, superwoman, take care of yourself, worry on February 28, 2015| 6 Comments »
Perfect Love
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged codependency, control, expectations, God, i am complete, looking for love, love, not perfect, perfect, pressure, relationships, romance on February 13, 2015| 11 Comments »
Thank you, Amazing Creator
for loving me
in a way
that no human could do
For showing me
that I am worthy
of that love
That perfect love.
Yet any and every time
I try to find that perfect love
here on Earth
here in another person
I will be disappointed.
But it’s a reality that
we just can’t love
the way you can
we are flawed
sometimes selfish
often clueless
So I will
stop looking for
perfect love
in people
I will be satisfied
with finding it
only in you
And I will let people
be imperfect in their love
just like me.
The Fixer Strikes Again
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged anxiety, being needed, codependency, communication, conflict, control, letting go, prove my worth, relationships, respect, self awareness on December 1, 2014| 3 Comments »
When folks aren’t communicating well
Each one talking, no one listening
I can almost always see what’s happening.
Unless, of course, I’m one of the two,
but that’s for another day…
So, I watch them talk
and see both perspectives
The points not being heard
the inferences not being shared
only implied, not received
the intent
vs. the impact
Perception is reality.
But
Just because I can see
what’s going on,
it does not mean
they want my help.
when no one is listening
they certainly don’t want
2 cents from me
And my best intentions
just complicate things further
I must resist helping
FIXING FIXING FIXING
CREATING PEACE
MAKING IT ALL OK
When no one has called in
The Fixer
Because I don’t need to prove
that I am smart
or helpful
or needed
And I will let you both
figure that out too
just between
the two of you
Deep Breath. Ding Dong.
Posted in Healing, Self worth, Workshops, tagged boundaries, dynamics, dysfunctional, expectations, family, grace, healing, pressure, relationships, remember who you are, self worth, worthy on November 15, 2014| 2 Comments »
Ding Dong.
I’m here.
I’m at the house.
I’m ready to go in.
Or am I?
For as soon as I do
will I remember
who I am?
Will I be labeled
with my past
with my mistakes
with my dark times?
Will I be labeled
with old nicknames
with old jokes
with old embarrassing stories?
Failed expectations
of who I am “supposed to” be
Will I fall into
the role of child
of black sheep
of petulant teen?
Will I fall into
old habits
old patterns
old thinking?
Will I remember
all I have become
all I have learned
all that has changed
All that I am?
I must.
I can.
I will.
I will set boundaries.
I will stand up for myself kindly and openly.
I will take a deep breath whenever I need to.
I will remember my worth.
Ding Dong.
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Dance Around the Elephant
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged cha cha cha, communication, healing, hurts, misunderstandings, pretending, relationships, unspoken words on October 19, 2014| 2 Comments »
How was your weekend?
Oh, pretty good
didn’t do much
just hung about
cha cha cha
How was your day?
Same ol’, same ol
pretty busy
lots of sitting
twist left, twirl right
What will you be doing tomorrow?
Did you have a good weekend?
What’s been happening?
What’s the weather going to be like?
What’s going on with
everyone else?
The dance continues
step together, step apart
superficial questions
artificial responses
avoiding the hulking elephant
planted firmly in this space
we know he’s there
we see him clearly
we step lively in circles
to keep clear of his path
leap, point, glide, arms extend
The dance continues
for if I mention the elephant
it might cause a ruckus
if I point and shout
it certainly would
create a scene
and that could make this
even more unbearable
than it currently is
or we just might get a chance
to guide him out of the room
But for now,
for today,
the dance continues
synchronized pirouettes
around the elephant
Overcoming Jealousy
Posted in Healing, Self worth, Workshops, tagged admitting bad feelings, comparison is the thief of joy, envy, expectations, jealousy, keeping up with the Joneses, overcome, peace, poetry, pride, relationships, worth on October 5, 2014| 2 Comments »
Sideways glances
through narrowed eyes
Angry thoughts
of fairness
and pride
Resentful bile
swelling in the gut
Words choking my throat
I would never want to say
and feel ashamed to be thinking
Jealousy. 
Envy.
Ugly.
Normal.
But I can make a choice
and jealousy
or envy
will not rule
my life
my thoughts
my body
I will conquer
the Green-Eyed Monster
and wish everyone well
and be happy for other’s success
without making it about me.
For I will change my focus
and see the light
in me
see the beauty
in me
see the uniqueness
in me
And travel on my own path
Noticing my own blessings
Living my own story.
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Being Ignored
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged i am complete, letting go, love, notice me, poetry, praise, pressure, relationships, respect, self esteem, worry, worth on September 30, 2014| 2 Comments »
I ask a question
and you just ignore me
moving into other topics
as if I said nothing
I share an idea
and you just ignore me
asking others for feedback
as if I said nothing
I strain
I strive
Aching for you to notice me
Yearning for you to appreciate me
I want you to be proud of me
I want to feel the glow
of “doing good”
But that just isn’t happening.
And it’s not going to happen.
So I need to remember
reality check time
my worth is not determined
by your approval.
My worth is not determined
by how much you like me
by how smart you think I am
by how much I add to the conversation
It may feel a little extreme, but I realize…
You don’t have to like me.
You don’t have to think I’m smart.
You don’t have to want to hear me.
You don’t have to even see me.
I still have worth
outside of you.
Know My Worth Workshops
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged classes, growth, know my worth, know your worth, learning, overcome, perfectionism, relationships, workshops, you are enough on September 5, 2014| 2 Comments »
No more waiting
No more second guessing
No more “making sure”
No more perfectionism
No more holding back
No more being torn
It’s time.
It’s time for us to come together
to talk about how we know our worth
That
It’s not what others tell us
It’s not the things we do
It’s not what we say
It’s not what we were taught
But
it’s inside
it’s pure
it’s God-given
And it’s ours.
We are enough just as we are!
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Hurting So Badly
Posted in Healing, Photo quotes, Self worth, tagged anxiety, comparison, control, expectations, forgiveness, letting go, pressure, relationships, self esteem, self worth on August 18, 2014| 2 Comments »
When something
or someone
here on Earth
hurts me
oh so badly
their words or deeds
penetrate my soul
the betrayal of spirit
the helplessness and futility
wounds of the heart
that seem to bleed and ooze
I need to take a moment
to stop and think
instead of feel
because when someone is able to hurt me to the core
it could actually be a sign
of my own unhealthy attachment
of my own expectations
that THIS PERSON will fulfill my needs
that A PERSON could fulfilll my needs
When we are all
just people
trying to survive
trying to figure it out for ourselves
And when someone hurts me
betrays me
mocks me
forgets me
ignores me
It’s not about me
It’s about them
finding their own way
figuring out their own mess
living their own truth
dealing with their own demons
I need to let it go
because their actions
their behaviors
are not a reflection of me
or of my worth
and I’m the only one
who can choose
to stop internalizing
to stop owning their mess
to stop
hurting so badly
Anticipating Criticism
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged anxiety, coaching, control, criticism, doubt, feedback, letting go, perfectionism, relationships, self worth, that's not helpful, worry on April 2, 2014| 14 Comments »
I sit waiting
cringing on the inside
knowing what’s coming
harsh “helpful” words
in the name of feedback
I sit waiting
determined to remember
this says more about her
than it does about me
determined to remember
this is one person’s opinion
and doesn’t define me
determined to remember
that I’m covered by grace
and don’t have to be perfect
I radiate light
Visualizing that light
swells me with strength
I sit a bit straighter
I lean forward and smile
For I am not defined
by this conversation
and I will not cower
anticipating criticism
Know My Worth 