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Letting Go

Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on November 21, 2014| 6 Comments »

how long will it take
to wipe it from my mind
pretend all is well
and just move on

should i be mad
sad or frustrated?

should i be kind
forgive and forget?

nothing you do
is even about me
even if it impacts me
it’s not about me

and so i must let go
i must move on
but i can’t pretend
and i can’t forget

I don’t want to

because that feels phony
and makes me a little sick inside

how do i move forward
without being fake

how do i move forward
without calling it out
without a scream or a shout
without even a whisper
of how i feel

how do i move forward
without making it about me…
even for a minute?

because if i just let it go
if i don’t say a thing
about how it makes ME feel
would it, could it
just might it happen again?

how do i let go
without being a mess
how do i let go
without spiraling in shame
how do i let go
and still believe in me?

photo: Christine Morgan

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Deep Breath. Ding Dong.

Posted in Healing, Self worth, Workshops, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on November 15, 2014| 2 Comments »

Ding Dong.ding dong

I’m here.
I’m at the house.
I’m ready to go in.

Or am I?

For as soon as I do
will I remember

who I am?

Will I be labeled
with my past
with my mistakes
with my dark times?

Will I be labeled
with old nicknames
with old jokes
with old embarrassing stories?

Failed expectations
of who I am “supposed to” be

Will I fall into
the role of child
of black sheep
of petulant teen?

Will I fall into
old habits
old patterns
old thinking?

Will I remember
all I have become
all I have learned
all that has changed

All that I am?

I must.
I can.
I will.

I will set boundaries.
I will stand up for myself kindly and openly.
I will take a deep breath whenever I need to.
I will remember my worth.

Ding Dong.

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Overcoming Jealousy

Posted in Healing, Self worth, Workshops, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on October 5, 2014| 2 Comments »

Sideways glances
through narrowed eyes

Angry thoughts
of fairness
and pride

Resentful bile
swelling in the gut

Words choking my throat
I would never want to say
and feel ashamed to be thinking

Jealousy. The Green Eyed Monster
Envy.
Ugly.
Normal.

But I can make a choice
and jealousy
or envy
will not rule
my life
my thoughts
my body

I will conquer
the Green-Eyed Monster
and wish everyone well
and be happy for other’s success

without making it about me.

For I will change my focus
and see the light
in me
see the beauty
in me
see the uniqueness
in me

And travel on my own path
Noticing my own blessings
Living my own story.

 

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Who told you?

Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , on September 14, 2014| Leave a Comment »

Who told you
that we need long hair
lashes or nails
rosy pink cheeks
and hidden pores
to be a woman?

As a girlWho told you that you needed to shave?
I rushed to grow up
to be a woman
what I thought it was to be

sneaking eyeliner to school
cutting myself with mom’s razor
plucking, curling, crimping
scouring for the perfect shade
to be pretty

Who told me
that I needed color palates
pinks and purples
lotions and potions
creamy and pungent

to be a woman?

Who told me
that I had to shave?

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Hurting So Badly

Posted in Healing, Photo quotes, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , on August 18, 2014| 2 Comments »

When something
or someone
here on Earth

hurts me
oh so badly

their words or deeds
penetrate my soul

the betrayal of spirit
the helplessness and futility

wounds of the heart
that seem to bleed and ooze

I need to take a moment
to stop and think
instead of feel

because when someone is able to hurt me to the core
it could actually be a sign
of my own unhealthy attachment

of my own expectations
that THIS PERSON will fulfill my needs
that A PERSON could fulfilll my needs

When we are all
just people
trying to survive
trying to figure it out for ourselves

And when someone hurts me
betrays me
mocks me
forgets me
ignores me

It’s not about me

It’s about them
finding their own way
figuring out their own mess
living their own truth
dealing with their own demons

I need to let it go
because their actions
their behaviors
are not a reflection of me
or of my worth

and I’m the only one
who can choose
to stop internalizing
to stop owning their mess
to stop
hurting so badly

let them own it

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What Makes Me Worthy?

Posted in Poetry, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , on June 25, 2014| 6 Comments »

Bombarded daily
to define myself
by some worldly standardDon't let the world tell you that you need to do or be anything - you have worth just as you are.
of success
of beauty
of worth

Is my job good enough?
Am I in fashion?
Do I make enough money?
Does my hair look right?

Is my house acceptable?
How about my body?
Do I have the right friends?
Do I hang out in the best places?

Do I make everyone happy?
Does everyone like me?
Am I a good girl?

If I align my life
with what the world says
these standards should be

will I feel satisfied?
will I feel worthy?

Nope.

Because none of it
none of the stuff
none of the opinions
none of the ways in which the world wants to define me

none of it
makes me who I am
or adds any value
to my soul

For I am fearfully
and wonderfully made
Loved
and cherished
just as I am

Without all the stuff
Without being in style
Without pleasing anyone

For nothing I do,
nothing I have done,
and nothing that has been done to me
defines my worth

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Trapped

Posted in Healing, Poetry, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , on May 20, 2014| 12 Comments »

Sometimes I feel trapped
by my own decisions

Times I said “Yes”
when I should have said “No”

Times I was silent
when I really wanted to talk

Times I said “Sure”
when I meant “Nope”

Times I stayed
when I really wanted to go

Times I said “OK”
when I wanted to say “No way”

Times I smiled
when I wanted to scream

Times.
So many times.

But here’s the thing
I must remember

I can change my decisions
at any time

and I’m never really trapped after all.

It's self care to say No

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Just Like Me

Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on May 10, 2014| 4 Comments »

I remember
the moment of enlightenment
the moment
I first realized
Mom was also
a woman

Just like me

Learning
Growing
Doing the best she can
making the best decisions
she knows how

A child herself
raising children
showing them love
giving them confidence
teaching them faith
believing in their dreams

A woman herself
who laughs and cries
sometimes insecure and unsure
with hopes and dreams
beliefs about life
and all that it’s meant to be

Just like me
mothers day

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Nothing I Do

Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged , , , , , , , , , on February 25, 2014| 9 Comments »

Nothing I say today
will be especially wise

Nothing I feel today
will be unique to me

Nothing I cook today
will amaze any tastebuds

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Nothing I write today
will be new words

And yet

Nothing I hear today
can make me feel badly

Nothing I start
Nothing I finish

Nothing I think on
Nothing I forget

Nothing today
Not one single thing
will impact my worth

No matter my feelings, my words, my skills
No matter my hurts, my worries, my fears

I shine filled with grace
with love and hope

For God’s love is pure
and grace so freely given
that nothing I do
nothing that’s done
will add or diminish
will polish or dirty
God’s treasured creation
that is me

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Rescue

Posted in Healing, tagged , , , , , , , , , , on February 9, 2014| 10 Comments »

When someone I love
is in pain or fear
unsure of what to do
crying or angry

I find myself
instantly geared
for superhero mode

awesome photo by Laura Glover

ready to swoop in
red cape sailing
shiny boots glinting
fists on hips

I’m ready to rescue
lift you out of the dark
erase your fear
remove your pain

But that’s not my job

And when I do
try to swoop in
with a fancy cape
and all the answers

I deny God
the opportunity to speak
the opportunity to heal
the opportunity to grow closer
to a beloved child

But
I find myself thinking
God can’t want this for you!
God must have put in my heart
to jump in
to share wisdom
to lift you

up up and away

But who am I to know
what God wants for you?
what God will use
in your life
to bring you closer to Him?

For I myself
have had hurts
traumatic pain
unhappy experiences

And God has used each one
to make me who I am

And so I must
fold up my cape
store away the boots

And let God
be the superhero
you need

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