Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged acceptance, anxiety, approval, belonging, fear, letting go, listen to me, overcome, relationships, self esteem, self worth, worry on June 27, 2015| 7 Comments »
I have a fear
of not being heard
of not being understood
of not being known.
Sometimes
I think this leads me to say
most every little thing
I am feeling or thinking.
But I am learning
I don’t have to
say it all.
Not everyone needs to hear me.
Not everyone needs to understand me.
And most people aren’t going to understand me anyway.
And that’s OK.
I think
what it comes down to
is that to be heard
I actually don’t need to be listened to
by anyone
but me.
Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged being accepted, confidence, expectations, fear, grace, guilt, overcome, poetry, pressure, relationships, saying no, self esteem, worry on June 22, 2015| 3 Comments »
Sometimes
I have to say no.
It’s important for me to do so
and it’s being true
to what I am really feeling
So I say no
not today
not now
I’m sorry, I can’t
But then the guilt.
It washes over me
floods my thoughts
churns in my belly
How can I say no?
They need me
need my help
need my service
and maybe need God through me
so the thoughts keep spinning
that I’m just being selfish
and would it have really hurt me
to drop what I’m doing
to add more to my plate
and would it have really hurt me
to give one more afternoon
because people give to me
and so shouldn’t I give back
all that I have?
all that I am?
but then I remember
what I can be like
when I don’t take care of myself
the tailspin I can create
the emotional states
the physical decline
and then I remember
that when people give to me
give in healthy ways
it doesn’t require
of loss of myself
to them
it is a gift
and then I remember
that setting boundaries
establishing limits
makes me MORE able to help
more able to be present
more able to be me
in those times that
are appropriate
and that’s woman –
that’s who
they were asking for
in the first place
Originally published 11.23.2012
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Posted in Healing, Self worth, tagged boundaries, burden, burnout, caretaking, codependency, letting go, overwhelm, pressure, relationships, responsibility, self esteem, self worth, you take care of you on June 11, 2015| 6 Comments »
Full of air
but not of helium
filled with
your own breath
your own hopes
your own dreams
it floats just above the ground
threatening to land on
sharp grass
jagged fence posts
my fork
And now it seems
It’s my job to keep it afloat
It’s my job to protect it from hot lava
It’s my job to bounce it higher
It’s my job to guard it safely
It certainly seems my job
not to be the one
to pop it
And so I reach out to lift up
up up up
into the light
words of praise
And so I reach out to protect
tap tap tap
away from harm
words of encouragement
But as I reach out,
I may say the wrong words
I may do the wrong actions
Because it’s not my balloon.
And as I reach out,
I may miss
and that balloon
it may pop
So I can’t be the one
who holds your balloon
So I can’t be the one
to sustain it in air
So I can’t be the one
to guard you from disappointment
And I can’t be responsible
for your balloon.
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